Big Wedding vs Intimate wedding – how do you choose?
ere at Tredudwell Manor, your favourite Cornwall wedding venue, we love hosting weddings of all shapes and sizes. From grand, joy-filled big barn wedding to romantic intimate weddings in Cornwall the beauty of choosing Tredudwell is that you’re never limited by format – you’re free to design a day that’s truly you.
But we’ve noticed a little trend – because of our spacious grounds and elegant barn, some couples assume we only host big weddings. Not at all! We adore intimate weddings just as much, and have designed flexible options for both. Whether you’re drawn to the energy of a large party or the magic of a smaller gathering, we’re here to help you figure out what feels right.
So, let’s dive into that all-important question: big wedding vs intimate wedding – how do you choose?
1. Managing your wedding guest list
If you’ve got a big family, love a full dance floor, or simply want to celebrate with everyone who’s been part of your story, then a larger guest list might be your dream. Our barn can comfortably host up to 220 guests, with plenty of room to party.
But if you prefer meaningful moments with a select few – or want to avoid the potential stress of complicated family dynamics – an intimate wedding in Cornwall might be the way to go. With our tailored smaller wedding packages, you can host up to 20 guests for something truly special, personal, and relaxed. You can even mix it up: a smaller ceremony with a bigger party later.
Top tip: No matter the size, your guests will have an unforgettable experience here – just wait until they see the views!
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2. Managing your wedding budget
A bigger wedding often means a bigger spend – more guests usually means more food, more drinks, and more of everything else. At Tredudwell, we’re proud to offer exceptional in-house catering with our chef, who creates delicious, seasonal menus whether you’re hosting 20 or 200.
If you’re looking to invest in fewer, high-impact elements (think: a stunning six-course tasting menu, a private garden ceremony, or artisan cocktails), an intimate wedding allows you to spend intentionally – and often save, too.
P.S. – our updated drinks packages offer everything from no corkage fees, to signature cocktails and locally sourced wine including Cornish fizz!
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3. Big wedding vs intimate wedding – Less stress, more support
Some couples feel that smaller weddings are naturally less stressful – fewer people to coordinate, a slower pace, and more room for spontaneous joy.
That said, we’ve seen couples host large weddings without breaking a sweat, thanks to a solid support system. Our team is here to help with all the planning and on-the-day logistics, whether you’re dreaming big or keeping it cosy. We also offer guidance on how to involve your wedding party and guests in meaningful ways.
Want more peace of mind? We’re experts in multi-day weddings too – giving you time to relax, settle in, and enjoy the celebration without rush.
4. What kind of atmosphere do you want?
The atmosphere of your wedding will feel totally different depending on the size. Big weddings often bring high energy, packed dance floors, and joyful chaos – the kind of day you’ll remember for its fun and scale.
Intimate weddings, on the other hand, create space for heartfelt moments, deeper conversations, and a relaxed, romantic vibe. They’re perfect if you want your wedding to feel like an elevated dinner party with your closest people.
Whether you want a full live band or an acoustic guitarist during dinner, we can help you shape the perfect soundtrack for your day.
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5. Down to your personal preference
A big wedding will appeal to social butterflies, couples who enjoy large parties and want to make a big impact with their wedding. It will allow for more elaborate decorations and entertainment for the atmosphere. A small intimate wedding will suit couples who prefer low-key events, focusing on meaningful moments and personal touches.
Ultimately, the choice between a small wedding and a big wedding depends on your personal priorities, budget, and vision for your special day. Consider what aspects are most important to you and your partner, and choose the option that best aligns with your preferences and circumstances.
5. It All Comes Down to You
At the end of the day, it’s not about what’s trendy or expected – it’s about what you want. Are you dreaming of a big celebration with everyone you know? Or a quiet, candlelit evening with just your favourites?
Whichever you choose, you don’t have to compromise at Tredudwell. We offer exclusive multi-day hire, on-site accommodation, and flexible packages that allow you to shape a wedding that reflects your personalities and priorities.
Ready to Start Planning?
We hope this has helped you reflect on the big wedding vs intimate wedding decision. Still unsure? Come visit us, and see how both styles can come to life here. Whether you’re planning a lively weekend-long celebration or a quiet, elegant elopement, we can’t wait to bring your vision to life.
Get in touch today to check our availability or chat more about your plans – we’d love to hear from you.
With love,
Valerie & all at Tredudwell x
